Dealing With A Loss

The Hubz and I were not going to publicize our pregnancy until we were at least 12 weeks so it may seem strange now that we have decided to publicize our loss. Last week, the day before our 8 week and first midwife appointment, something just didn’t seem right and after an ultrasound it was confirmed I had a miscarriage for the 2nd time. Over the last week we have been dealing with the loss of our pregnancy and are doing fine, it’s never an easy thing but we have the support of each other, our family, bosses and the few friends who knew.

So why am I writing this post and telling the world? I received a wonderful gift from Earth Mama’s today and I just felt like I should post and let others know that things like this happen even to healthy people and that there are great resources out there to deal with losses like ours.  I was originally going to do a post for Earth Mama’s about their tea but when I lost the pregnancy I let them know that I would no longer be doing a post and that the shouldn’t send the product to review.  They sent me the most kind and caring note back expressing their sympathy for our loss and to my surprise I received a few wonderful items today: Harmony Tea and Seeds of Hope.

It brings tears to my eyes that people I don’t even know can be so supportive and caring about our loss.  I think that it is important for others to know that there are things out there to comfort women who are dealing with loss of pregnancy. During our last miscarriage my husband and I felt lost and a lack of support resources.  There are so many resources out there for postpartum or loss of a child but miscarriages seem to get pushed to the side; for those of your who know someone that has experienced one or you yourself have know that it’s heartbreaking and an extremely emotional experience. I would like to note that Earth Mama’s have not asked me to do a review of these items but that they were sent as a sympathy gift and I felt that it was important to pass on that there are things out there for those who are dealing with such a loss.

During our last miscarriage Kristen Suzanne of Kristen’s Raw was such an inspiration and role model for me during our hard time.  Reading her posts helped me through my hard times; I actually went back to her post at this point and just felt more at peace with things because her fertility ups and downs have kept me positive.  I would like to mention that Kristen just had a baby girl Kamea which gives me hope that even with our struggles someday we will be able to have a our baby of our own. Congratulations Kristen & Hubby! I recommend that if you are pregnant, thinking of getting pregnant, are dealing with a pregnancy loss or fertility struggles Kristen is a great resource.

Once we move into our new apartment (hopefully this weekend) we will find a beautiful pot and plant our Seeds of Hope.  I want to thank everyone for their support during this hard time and say Hubz I love you.

Update: I just found out at I have extremely low progesterone which may be the reason why we have had issues staying pregnant; Do you know of any natural ways in which to increase progesterone levels?


  1. (((((HUGS)))))) I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is just breaking for you. I just wanted to let you know that you can email me if you ever want to talk. My mother had 7 miscarriages before me. I was so nervous. Believe me, it will happen. You and your hubs are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you lots of love tonight. I know your seeds of hope are going to grow strong and so will your baby. XOXO

  2. Carrie

    Lindsay – I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had to endure this terrible loss for a second time. Having suffered a miscarriage myself I know how truly heartbreaking and devastating it can be. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that the Universe unfolds as it should and that there’s nothing you cups have done to prevent this. We are never given anything we can’t handle.

    Know that I am thinking about you and that my deepest sympathies are extended to both you and your husband. Stay strong. <3

  3. Such a hard sad thing to loose a little one even if the little one was still so much an idea and dream for the near future. I think its wise to grieve and do things to make real what a loss this is even though so many people have no idea and its, for some reason, a taboo subject that makes many uncomfortable.

    Years ago I lost a pregnancy at 13.5 weeks. I was so fortunate to already have had two sons so I can’t imagine loosing my first but it hurt all the same.
    Having to say goodbye to the dreams of what that little person would have been like made my heart ache for a long time. It still aches a bit for that matter but it does stop hurting as much as time goes by.
    In the meantime, be kind to yourself and go through the steps of grief and hang on to your hubby. So great that you have each other.
    RIP little one.
    Hang in there mama.

  4. Lindsey, my thoughts are with you and your husband. I can’t imagine what you are going through. I think the seeds of hope package says it perfectly- from the soil of grief life blooms anew. Stay strong, you will get throught this!

  5. I’m so sorry for your loss. You will get through this due to the love you and your husband share. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

  6. I am so deeply sorry for the life that you have lost. Even in the early stages, this child was loved which is obvious from your words above. In the future, you will make one hell of a momma! Xoxo

  7. Jan

    I just started following your blog and have really enjoyed reading it. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. If you haven’t been already, you may want to get checked for a thyroid disorder, and especially for presence of thyroid autoantibodies. They are linked to miscarriages, in some cases.

  8. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I wish I could find conforting words… It’s a blessing that you’re surrounded by the support and love of so many people.

  9. Lindsey, you are so brave and courageous.

    I am sorry for your loss. I can’t say I know what you’re going through, but I know that you are blessed to have such a supportive husband, circle of friends, and admirers. We are all here for you, quite apparently, and will support you along the way–wherever the way takes you. I think it’s great that you’re speaking up for those who have suffered a miscarriage and felt lost in terms of support and resources. I wish you all the best–because a person like you deserves only the best.

    Hugs and positive vibes, Christina

  10. So sorry to hear about this. I was touched by your post and have to agree that there are so many incredibly supportive and loving people out there in blog land. I’m so glad to know that they offered you both help and comfort.

  11. I am so impressed with the honesty of this post. I’m so sorry for your heartbreaking loss – I’ll be sending positive thoughts towards you and your husband.

  12. So sorry for your loss…..I’m just catching up on blog posts now, after our trip. Wish you the best of luck in the future. Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with us….am thinking of you.

  13. so sorry for your loss…I can relate–had a miscarriage jan 5.2002–took a few months to get pregnant again–my son came home from the hospital on
    jan 5.2003–the one year anniversary of our loss……what wonderful little helpers those teas could be-how nice of someone to give them to you-that is an awesome idea-great product idea…..many many well wishes for you in the future.

    meridian ms

  14. Priya

    I stumbled onto your blog today and have been reading it for the last hour. I know this is belated but I just wanted to say that you are such a strong, positive and kind woman and you really are an inspiration.

    Btw, if you are still looking to treat low progesterone levels, I would highly recommend chaste tree extract. After years of suffering from hormonal imbalance, I tried chaste tree on the advice of my herbalist friend and it worked wonders on my body. It’s natural, doesn’t contain synthetic hormones and apparently helps with conception. Anyway, i wish you the best with everything! 🙂

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